Dear Friend,
If your relationship has been rocked by infidelity you are probably feeling, shell-shocked, disappointed, angry, untrusting or all of these things. The first thing to understand is that it is perfectly normal to feel this way – being cheated on has the power to shake you to your very core and question everything in your life. Even the suspicion of infidelity has the ability to turn your entire life upside down. Feeling hurt, disrespected, angry, sad, anxious, overly-suspicious, agitated is to be expected but it now up to you to take back your power and heal.
You are not alone but take care with who you involve in this current situation. It’s perhaps best to speak about your feelings and emotions with someone not directly a part of your circle of friends and family because, let’s face it, they are often the same circle for your partner. At this point in time you need objective guidance and it’s best not to involve people in on-the-spot hurt-inspired decisions that in the light of a new day you may want to change. This is particularly important should your relationship include children.
While each relationship is different and every person will deal with infidelity in a different way, it’s important to understand what you are going through and to process your feelings; it’s vital in order to move forward with life and love.
I read a quote years ago that read that when it comes to cheating ‘it’s not who you lie with but who you lie to’ that matters. And I think that brings up the biggest issue in dealing with infidelity – it’s often not the sex with another person that hurts the most, but the lies, the betrayal and the broken trust.
It’s important for you to recognize these emotions and work through them. Time will heal nothing, it’s what you do in that time that’s important. Don’t make rash decisions that have the potential to change the direction of your future; coping with cheating and moving forward needs to be achieved step by step.
Whether you just suspect cheating or you’ve had confirmation of the situation, advice and guidance is available to get you through this. Contact me today to learn more.
Yours in peace and healing,
Niki
